Welcome to this week’s edition of #TakeOverTuesday! This week’s guest blogger is my favorite person in the whole entire world….my hubby! He keeps me sane, loves me like no other could, is an amazing father to our daughter and is an all around great guy! I’m lucky to call him mine! He is a partner in every sense of the word. I couldn’t do what I do without him, including all the fun we have here at Delicately Balancing Life because he does a LOT to help behind the scenes on my blog. I’m honored that he agreed to be a guest blogger here and hope you enjoy his post!
By: Sean Staples aka Mr. Delicately Balancing Life
So first off, I need to thank my wonderful, beautiful and talented wife for asking me to contribute to her great website. I do some of the website and image work for her behind the scenes on the site, so I’m honored that she asked me to write something…so thank you hun!
Okay, so here’s the deal…I run my own business and service a modest (but active) book of clients and work from home and have done so for the better portion of the past 17 years. I’m a WFHD (work from home dad). In addition to that, I’m also pursuing a second career in an extremely difficult industry to penetrate that requires a lot of time. Needless to say, being busy is pretty much the regular day in and day out for me. So when our little sweet came along, and the schedules were such that her and I were going to get to spend a day or two together each week, I honestly didn’t know what to expect.
The obvious questions raced through my mind about whether or not I could juggle another huge responsibility all day, at least once per week, and what would that be like when I was on a deadline, etc? I’ll admit it: I put on a brave face, but I was a little scared about how that might effect my work and client obligations. I think we can all agree that when you are with your kids, it’s a full-time activity…you can’t exactly take conference calls and update the projections for next week’s deadlines while giving the little one a bottle and changing diapers. Something is going to suffer! Well, for me, I wasn’t going to let that be my time with Juliet while she is right in the throws of learning about the world.
We didn’t start our family when we were in our 20’s like lots of people do. We waited…in fact we waited 17 years after getting married, before making the decision to start our family. We had the ability to watch most of our friends have children, and many struggled with staying afloat and balancing work and life, and I think we both knew we wanted to make sure we had just the right situation to ensure we were able to really give parenting everything we could and enjoy those moments that many times end up just becoming the day-to-day passing of life…we didn’t want that and we definitely didn’t want to just have kids “because it was the thing you do”.
So, right…back to the point of this post… discussing my days with Juliet and making sure that when I’m with her, that I am truly with her and that she comes first. It seems like an obvious thing, but when your home is your work and your work is your home, these lines can become blurry. Even before becoming a father, it was difficult to separate the lines between work time and personal time. When your business is in your home, it is always work time; work is ever present.
So, how do you juggle client emergencies with a baby who doesn’t understand “daddy needs to take a quick call; hang out here for a minute and play” because she is only five months old and, by all accounts, doesn’t understand English yet. Well, you don’t. You pretty much just pray each morning when you’re going to be home with her that the client “emergencies” occur between 9:00-10:30am and/or 1:00-3:30pm aka nap times. As a WFHD, my schedule is more flexible than Lindsey’s, but I still have clients to serve. But, at the end of the day, the beauty of living at my “office” is that when the wife and baby go to bed, I can make up for lost time, check in to my office and accomplish more between 11pm and 1am than most are able to do between 8am-5pm.
So, I get the best of both worlds: a day or two each week with my daughter and the ability to be a WFHD, regardless of the time of day when I perform my work. I know this time won’t last forever. Juliet will grow up and move on to preschool, kindergarten…COLLEGE and I will be happy that I got this time with her, to watch her learn and grow. And, in the meantime, I’ll be the guy at the park, in the middle of the day on a Wednesday, enjoying a few extra trips down the slide with his daughter and making up for it on Thursday evening when the wifey and little one are deep in slumberland. It’s all part of Delicately Balancing Life.